Friday, February 29, 2008

In First, N.Y. Judge Allows Gay Divorce

In First, N.Y. Judge Allows Gay Divorce

Trial Court Ruling Appears to Be State's First Allowing Divorce From Same-Sex Marriage

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In what appears to be the first ruling of its kind, a New York judge will allow a lesbian couple who married in Canada to sue for divorce.

Though New York does not allow same-sex marriages, a state trial court judge refused to dismiss a divorce and child custody suit brought by a woman, identified only as Beth R., against her former partner Donna M. Read article

Warren Shiell is a family law attorney in Santa Monica, Los Angeles, Beverly Hills

Sunday, February 24, 2008

Jewish women look to courts to obtain traditional divorce decree

SOURCE: Lisa J. Huriash South Florida SUN SENTINEL
Freedom will come soon, in the form of a handwritten paper with 12 lines of Hebrew and Aramaic.Since Karen Gruber-Colp's marriage came apart a year ago with a divorce filing, her ex-husband has failed to give her a "get," a Jewish divorce document that permits her to remarry.On Valentine's Day, she appealed to Broward Circuit Judge Jack Tuter to force her ex-husband to give her the document. Tuter's order requires him to comply by Thursday."Thank God," Colp said after the hearing. "This was huge. This could have gone on for the rest of my life."The 35-year-old Colp, of Dania Beach, is one of a growing number of observant Jewish women throughout the country turning to the secular civil courts to fix what religious leaders are calling a crisis in the community. For the last year, Colp has been an "agunah," a Hebrew word meaning "a woman chained to a dead marriage."Observant women need their husbands to grant them a divorce. But some Jewish leaders say angry men are keeping their wives in limbo to get a greater share of money or property or just for spite.To help women like Colp, the South Florida chapter of the Women's International Zionist Organization, or WIZO, is proposing legislation that would impact the distribution of assets in a divorce if one spouse imposes "barriers to remarriage" that are either religious or secular.The legislation has one sponsor so far: state Sen. Dave Aronberg, D-Greenacres. If WIZO finds a House sponsor, the issue could be debated in Tallahassee in March."This to me is not a religious issue as much as it is a fairness issue," Aronberg said.New York has had what is known as a "Get Law" since the early 1980s. It provides that a civil divorce will not be granted unless all impediments to remarriage have been removed. Legislators in Maryland are considering a similar bill.Others with get laws include Scotland, Canada, England and South Africa. In Israel, where the religious courts have enforcement powers, men who refuse to give a get can lose a driver's license, the ability to hold public office, their credit cards, bank accounts and civil service jobs. They can even be sent to prison.In Israel's most notorious case, a Yemenite Jew spent 35 years in prison until he died, saying he would never give his wife a get. His wife was 65 when he died and she married a month later, said Sharon Shenhav, a Jerusalem-based women's rights lawyer."The problem exists in every Jewish community in the world," she said. "When you're getting divorced, people aren't usually too happy with each other and there's a lot of anger." She said a man holding out on the get "is sheer blackmail."To help the women, more rabbis are encouraging couples to sign a pre-nuptial agreement containing sanctions for not signing a get, said Rabbi David Lehrfield, of the Young Israel synagogue in North Miami Beach, and some are even refusing to marry couples unless both sign.In addition, some Jewish newspapers publish the names of men who refuse to give their wives a get in an effort to embarrass them into compliance. For example, on Feb. 9 The Jewish Press, a national newspaper, published the names of nine men who had been ordered to give their wives a get dating back to 2002.Also, the Jewish Orthodox Feminist Alliance in New York began a telephone support program this past fall, said Batya Levin, the co-chairwoman of the Agunah Task Force. "It's hand holding," said Levin. "Women in this situation get to feel so lonely."And Yehoshua Zev, the executive director of ORA (The Organization for the Resolution of Agunot) in New York, said he organizes "social pressure" to the men "to convince them to fulfill their moral, ethic and religious obligation to free their wives."First ORA appeals to their common sense, Zev said. If that doesn't work, ORA offers to pay the estimated $500 to have a scribe write the get. The next step is supplying names to Jewish newspapers. In a last resort, the group will have men demonstrate in front of his home and work place.A rally this week is being contemplated for the front of one man's house in south Palm Beach County, although ORA declined to release details about the man. "He hasn't given his wife a `get' for 10 years," Zev said. "We worked it out with the police. The goal isn't to harm the person. It's to educate him he has to do the right thing."Colp said her life has been on hold until now. Without a get, "no rabbi will marry you," she said. "And in most religious communities, most observant Jews will not even date you if you don't have a get -- you are considered to be married and you are considered to be committing adultery. So I can't even date."
Warren Shiell is a divorce and family law lawyer in Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Beverly Hills

Parental alienation: The latest weapon in nasty divorces

Source Lawyers USA
"Welcome to the swamp."
That's what a judge once told a client of Anchorage divorce attorney Steve Pradell when accusations of parental alienation were leveled against the client in a custody hearing.
Parental alienation syndrome - a controversial diagnosis to describe a child who compulsively denigrates one parent in response to consistent brainwashing by the other parent - has become a common weapon in custody cases.
"It happens all the time," said Michael R. Walsh, a divorce attorney in Orlando, Fla. "If Mom can't hurt Dad another way, what has she got left after she's tried to rake him over the coals on everything else?"
According to Richard Gardner, the psychologist who is considered the father of the syndrome, it typically manifests itself as a campaign of denigration by one parent against the other, which is accompanied by weak, frivolous and absurd rationalizations for the deprecation. As a result of this steady campaign of insult, the child reflexively supports the alienating parent and experiences no guilt over their own cruelty towards the targeted parent.
But the mental health profession is far from agreement about the existence of the syndrome. Noting the lack of supporting data, the American Psychological Association has "no official position on the purported syndrome," according to a statement in its website.
The legal community is divided as well.
While many family lawyers believe the syndrome is a legitimate psychological diagnosis, others view it as nonsense. They say it's used primarily by parents who want someone to blame for their poor relationship with their children.
"I think it's more of a code word that gets used in trial because one parent is not maintaining the relationship with the children and believes the other parent is interfering with the relationship," said Minneapolis divorce attorney Susan Gallagher.
Like it or not, parental alienation has become a common weapon in courts across the country. Even in jurisdictions that don't recognize it as a diagnosable syndrome in children, lawyers can still argue straight parental alienation - that one parent's attempts to turn the child against the other parent indicates that the first parent is not fit to have custody.
Sometimes the behavior that prompts charges of parental alienation is subtle - frequent disparaging remarks within earshot of the child or setting up appointments and activities for the child during times when the other parent is scheduled to have visitation. Other times it is openly aggressive, such as unfounded accusations of child abuse or neglect.
In some cases, a parent is deluded enough to believe their unfounded accusations - and other times when the accusations are true - so sorting out what is real and what is not can be a tall order for the courts.
"I can't tell you if the syndrome exists psychologically, but I can say it's very troubling and one of the hardest things for a judge to figure out if it's really happening," said Pradell.
It's also possible for the child to be alienated from one parent without any campaign of denigration by the other.
"Just for the sake of illustration, a 13-year-old girl finds out before Mom that Dad is cheating on Mom. That 13-year-old girl may become alienated from Dad, not because of Mom, but the alienation is there," said Patrick O'Reilly of Buffalo, head of the Family Law Section of the New York Bar Association.
As the Anchorage judge said: "Welcome to the swamp."
Making it stick

Although parental alienation has become a common weapon in custody cases around the country, proving it can be a tall order.
"It's like everything else in a custody case - it all comes down to what you can prove at trial. A lot of bad things happen, but they're very difficult to prove," said Ben Stevens of Stevens MacPhail in Spartanburg, S.C.
The best place to begin is with witnesses - anyone who was present when one of the alienating interactions occurred. In some states, clients can record telephone calls or other conversations to create audio evidence.
O'Reilly suggested that lawyers encourage their clients to communicate via e-mail and voice mail to create a tangible record. This will be far more effective in court than the typical he-said/she-said battles that dominate most custody battles.
But the heart of any parental alienation case is the expert testimony, according to Stevens.
"Take the child to a mental health professional and let him do testing," he suggested. "Then you've got an expert witness to come and say, 'In my expert opinion, this is what's going on.'"
It many cases the judge will require a court-appointed psychologist to work with both parents and the children in order to obtain a non-partisan expert opinion. In a similar vein, lawyers may want to ask the court to appoint a guardian ad litem who will advocate on behalf of the child to determine whether parental alienation has occurred.
In the end, though, lawyers should be prepared for a tough battle.
"It's very hard to prove, because if you have the client from whom the children are estranged, you don't have a child willing to cooperate with the process, and that's where most of the proof would be," O'Reilly said.

efending against a charge

These same strategies, and a few others, are useful if unfounded allegations of alienation are leveled against your client.
"Obviously they have the burden to prove the client's doing something," said O'Reilly. "It's not, 'The child doesn't talk to me, res ipsa it's your fault.' You have a little bit of advantage."
First, make sure your client always takes the high road. Although the natural instinct of clients is to become indignant and defend themselves vehemently, protesting too loudly could undermine their credibility in the eyes of the court, said Gallagher.
Instead, develop an action plan for how your client can build a stronger relationship with the children. Change any behavior that is suspect. Have clients tell the judge that while they don't feel there is evidence to support the allegation, they are seeking the help of a professional as a precaution, and are prepared to change any behavior that is deemed inappropriate.
"Who is not confident in a parent who is going to do and say that?" Gallagher asked.
But just as in the case of the accuser, the most powerful weapon for a client who is accused of alienation is the psychological expert.
"A good forensic expert has credibility because that person doesn't represent your guy and doesn't represent the other party - he's appointed by the court," said Tom Carnes of Carnes Ely in Houston.
Third-party witnesses can also be a powerful weapon in court.
"Try to line up witnesses that would have had the opportunity to see [the parent] interact with the child. Teachers, scout leaders, dance teachers, karate teachers - people who see them during times when parents let their guard down and can say, 'I've never seen Dad say anything bad about Mom or Mom say anything bad about Dad,'" Stevens suggested.
Finally, Carnes suggests that lawyers request more visits between the targeted parent and child in an effort to strengthen the relationship between them.
Of course, the best defense against an alienation charge is to make sure it's never made in the first place. Advise your client not to get in the middle of disputes between the child and the other parent, O'Reilly advised. If a child refuses to go with the non-custodial parent, the custodial parent should insist. He or she should tell the child that the judge has required the visit.
"I encourage my clients to act reasonably, assume anything they do or say could be shown to the judge - or better yet, that the judge is standing there watching," said Stevens. "I don't know if that's great advice or I've just had good clients, but I haven't had many alienation claims alleged against my clients."

Keep your sanity

Custody cases are among the most frustrating cases a lawyer takes on, O'Reilly said.
Although he said he doesn't duck under his desk when a potential client walks into his office with an alienation claim, "there's certainly a gastro-intestinal response that says, 'Oh jeez.'"
And there's more than your professional satisfaction at stake. Choosing the wrong clients could damage your firm's reputation.
"We represent the alleged perpetrator more often, but we make sure we think they're not a pervert or hitting their kids before we ever take them on," said Carnes. "If we take people who are in the gray area, the court is going to develop a different view of us over time."
Stevens is also careful to take cases he believes in strongly.
"It's not worth it to me to deal with clients who are acting deliberately," he said. "If they're going to do that to their child's parent, I'm going to have a problem with them at some point."
But that approach concerns Pradell, who worries it will make it difficult for the parent who really is guilty of alienation to find adequate counsel. He believes lawyers should take the assertions of prospective clients at face value, while maintaining a willingness to fire any client who wants them to do something unethical.
To maintain his sanity, Carnes periodically takes time off from custody cases and concentrates on his business litigation practice.
As gut-wrenching as custody cases can be, Pradell said there is something that keeps him coming back for more. He recalled a case he took on when he was starting to burn out after 15 years of family law.
His client was a father who was awarded custody of his child and an unborn sibling because the mother and her boyfriend physically abused the child. The woman disappeared before the birth. But many months later, Pradell received a call from the police in Washington, who had just raided the home of the mother and boyfriend. The officer found a copy of the signed order giving custody of the unborn child to Pradell's client. The baby girl had a broken arm, but doctors expected her to be okay. The state confiscated the child and delivered her to her father.
Six months ago, Pradell, who is also a magician, performed a show at the little girl's birthday party. "At the end of the show I sat with her and I said, 'I knew you before you were born,' and she goes, 'You must be magic.'"
"That case changed me - now I know I make a difference."
By Amy Johnson Conner Contributing writer
Warren Shiell is a Family Law attorney serving Santa MOnica, Beverly Hills, Los Angeles

Divorce: Whether to move out of the house

Source: "Should I Move Out?" by attorney Eric C. Nelson at
A question considered by most people contemplating divorce is whether they should move out of the marital home prior to or upon filing for divorce. Generally speaking, if child custody, parenting time, or possession of the home might be an issue in your divorce, I advise against moving out. Instead, try to stay put until the temporary order hearing, which is your first opportunity to legally compel your spouse to move out.
Although no legal precedent is created by your moving out of the marital residence, it will give your spouse's lawyer the opportunity to argue that:
1. Temporary custody of the child(ren)should be awarded to your spouse because he/she is already living in the house which has been the children's home. Forcing the children to move would only bring more disruption to their lives.
2. Temporary possession of the home should be awarded to your spouse because he/she is already living there. Since you made the decision to move out, it makes more sense to leave everyone where they now are instead of requiring both spouses to make another move.
These same arguments can be made not only for purposes of the temporary order, but also regarding your permanent divorce decree. And while the arguments may not prevail in the end, they very likely will have some influence on the judge since one of his/her primary motivations is to preserve the status quo.
If you must move out of the home due to an abusive or otherwise insufferable situation for yourself or the children, take the following precautions.
First, if custody is an issue, try to move the children with you if this can be accomplished without too much disruption in their lives. If you can't move the children with you, try to spend as much time with them in your care as you are requesting in the divorce. Otherwise, the longer you acquiesce to a pattern of parenting time that is less than you desire, the more of an argument the other party will make of it against you. Often arguments like the following are heard:
"Your Honor, the Petitioner moved out four months ago, and since then he has only had the children every other weekend, by his own acquiescence. Now all of a sudden he wants custody (or more parenting time, as the case may be). This is clearly a disingenuous request which should be summarily denied. The schedule the parties have been following has worked well for the children, and for the sake of their sense of stability and continuity, it should continue."
After a period of time has passed, nobody will much care if the reason you only had every other weekend was because the other parent truly wouldn't "let" you have more time. Although that may very well be the case, and although you may have let your spouse control the situation in order to spare the children the trauma of parental conflict, in my experience the courts are more swayed by the pattern of contact rather than by these "excuses."
Second, when you move out, take with you all of the household goods, furnishings, and other items of personal property which you want to keep. And perform an inventory of the items you have taken. The old adage "possession is nine tenths of the law" is very applicable here. Litigating personal property issues is usually prohibitively expensive, because it normally costs more to litigate than the stuff is worth. So if you ever want to see it again, it is much simpler and easier to take it with you when you leave. However, don't get too greedy. If you empty the place out and leave your spouse and children to sleep and eat on a bare concrete floor, you will have become your own worst enemy. Your reprehensible behavior will give ammunition to your spouse's attorney that will likely cause you to end up in the judge's doghouse, a blunder from which you may never recover.
Warren Shiell is a Family Law Attorney in Los Angeles

Women increasingly paying spousal support

Women Increasingly Paying Alimony by Betsy Schiffman from Forbes Magazine.Article The picture of equality looks awfully strange to Kim Shamsky. The 47-year-old business owner pays her ex, a 65-year-old retired Major League Baseball player, thousands per month in temporary spousal support. He's not seeking alimony to help pay for the kids' birthday parties, since they don't have children. Nor was he instrumental in building her business. They married seven years after she started a handful of staffing firms and amassed a small fortune on her own. The daughter of a New York City taxi driver, Shamsky started her first staffing agency at age 27 with the help of a 21% loan. Not only was she able to make her first business profitable, but she's also worked furiously to ensure the success of all five businesses she's started since. Small wonder she is outraged at having to pay thousands of dollars a month to her ex. "He used to scream and throw tantrums and demand more money," Shamsky says of her ex-husband. "It was like he thought, 'Hey, you have money, why shouldn't I?'" She adds flatly: "I will never marry again. And I'm getting T-shirts made with the word 'prenup' written across the chest." No doubt Shamsky would find more than a few buyers for the shirts. The idea that men can receive spousal support from their wives may feel like a freakish concept, but as women have become higher earners, it's increasingly common. And as men set their sights on women's earnings, women have become more protective of those dollars. In fact, according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 44% of attorneys included in a recent survey said they've seen an increase in women asking for prenuptial agreements over the last five years, where in previous decades, prenuptial agreements were almost always sought by men. A lot of women are indignant now that the shoe is increasingly on the other foot, says Carol Ann Wilson, a certified financial divorce practitioner in Boulder, Colo. "There's this sense of, 'What's yours is ours, but what's mine is mine,'" Wilson says. "My first response to that is, 'All these years we have been looking for equality; well, this is what it looks like.' I think women get angrier about having to pay than men do." The ordeal has been played up in gossip magazines and tabloids, which have closely followed countless examples of celebrity breakups in which men have sought, or have threatened to seek, spousal support. Teen idol and crooner Nick Lachey reportedly requested the right to seek spousal support from ex-wife pop singer Jessica Simpson last year. (Lachey is seven years older than Simpson and reportedly worth significantly less.) In another splashy case, Hardy Boy Parker Stevenson sought $18,000 per month from actress Kirstie Alley when they divorced, just to cover the rent on his Bel Air home. But Wilson emphasizes that it's not just actresses or the wealthiest women who are seeking prenuptial agreements or paying spousal support. "I've seen thousands of clients," she says, "and almost every time I've seen a stay-at-home dad seek alimony, the wife--she's usually a software executive--goes ballistic." Some women find it's not a battle worth fighting, according to Cheryl Lynn Hepfer, the Rockville, Md.-based president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. Hepfer says she's seen women who have happily chosen to pay off their husbands in an effort to maintain their sanity and keep the peace. "I once represented a wealthy woman who had the wherewithal to pay $6,000 a month to her husband--and this was probably 10 years ago--so she paid him," Hepfer says, adding that the client also gave her ex the boat and the house on the water. "She wasn't bitter about it at all. She was a business woman, and for her, this was a business decision." Hepfer says she did it to preserve the relationship with her former husband and their two children. "She knew it would be beneficial for the kids." Just as some women object to men's request for spousal support, some men are particularly uncomfortable seeking it. Either they find it emasculating to ask, or they find the idea of receiving an allowance from their ex-wives humiliating, according to divorce attorneys. "The fact is that you still don't see too many cases where men seek alimony," says William Beslow, a divorce attorney in New York City. "One reason is that although women may earn more than men, they often wind up with custody of the children, and when a woman takes up primary responsibility for the children, men don't request maintenance." Some men avoid the embarrassment by seeking a bigger bite of the marital assets instead of asking for alimony. Not only do lump-sum payments save them the humiliation of accepting monthly support, but they also reduce the ex-husband's taxes, since spousal support payments are taxed, while assets are not. On the flip side, in those situations when men receive assets, women lose their tax benefit, because spousal support is tax-deductible, Hepfer notes. The upshot: Even if it's easier to settle with one swift payment, consult an accountant first to learn the tax consequences. It may be better for you financially to pay alimony. Kim Shamsky admits she's angry about paying her ex-husband spousal support mostly because he's a man. After all, men are supposed to be breadwinners, not bread takers. "A real man just wouldn't do this sort of thing," she says. "Maybe it's my Italian upbringing, but I don't think it's right." Right or not, as women's earnings grow, so will their financial responsibility during divorce. That's equality for you.
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Bankruptcy in Divorce

From Forbes Magazine, Written by Marlene M. Browne Esq.Link Just over two years ago, President George W. Bush signed the Bankruptcy Abuse Prevention and Consumer Protection Act (BAPCPA) of 2005, which became effective Oct. 17, 2005. If you are getting divorced, this new bankruptcy law could concern you. Reason: While you may not realize it, in this country, our high divorce rate and bankruptcy commonly intersect. Here’s how. Until the enactment of the BAPCPA, the bankruptcy process was seen by some, and used by many, as a tool to permanently evade (or, to use bankruptcy terminology, “discharge”) family obligations foisted upon them by agreement or court order after a marital dissolution. Plus, once a person filed a bankruptcy petition--for liquidation under Chapter 7 or reorganization under Chapter 13 (or, less commonly, Chapter 11)--he gained the protection of an “automatic stay,” preventing creditors from taking any actions against him, his income or his property to collect their debts.
If the “debtor’s” income was less than the sum needed to maintain his lifestyle, including debt service, he would generally opt for the Chapter 7 liquidation, taking advantage of whatever homestead and property exemptions his state allowed, thus protecting his assets from creditors. If any nonexempt property existed, the bankruptcy trustee would liquidate it to pay secured creditors first, with unsecured creditors, such as ex spouses (who lacked collateral or guarantees) at the back of the line.
While Chapter 7 liquidation was not a means to avoid a mortgage or shirk taxes secured by liens, it did provide the debtor a clean slate, free from pesky consumer debt--credit cards, loans from friends and family, legal or medical bills--and whatever equitable distribution payments he couldn’t comfortably afford. Plus, if a person happened to live in Florida, Iowa, Kansas Oklahoma, South Dakota or Texas, he could really make out like a bandit because these states had (and still have) limitless homestead--and generous property--exemptions.
Consequently, for the cost of a court filing and the administrative fees of the bankruptcy proceeding (the trustee’s fees, typically a minor percentage of the value of the “estate,” i.e., nonexempt property existing when the petition is filed), one could continue to own and enjoy, post discharge, a multimillion-dollar residence--provided he paid the mortgage.
On the other hand, if a person had sufficient income to pay his debts over time, but needed a breather to call off court actions and collection efforts--or he didn’t want to liquidate his nonexempt property (which, in the Atlantic Coast states, with little to no homestead exemptions, could be substantial)--he could file a Chapter 13 “reorganization” plan, allowing him to pay his debts (or some fraction of them) under a court-approved plan, over a period of three to five years. Once completed, the person emerged debt free, with a fresh start (and a blot on his credit report for 10 years). Still for many, the calculus of the decision made sense.
But that was then, this is now. Since Oct. 17, 2005, to automatically qualify as a Chapter 7 filer, you must make less than the median income in your state, given the number of people in your household. If your income equals or is greater than the median for your state, you still might qualify as a Chapter 7 filer, depending on whether you can afford to pay $100 to $166 per month, over the course of five years, to your unsecured creditors.
If you make too much money to qualify for Chapter 7, and you meet the requirements for a Chapter 13 (you have regular income and your secured debt is less than $922,975, and your unsecured debt is less than $307,675), you can seek relief from your creditors under a reorganization plan. After the specified three or five years of paying under the court-approved plan, you’ll have canceled debts without the typical tax consequences. No matter which Chapter you file under, BAPCPA requires that you obtain credit counseling and participate in special debt management programs.
Perhaps even more important than the means test and mandatory financial management education is the fact that BAPCPA has made it much more difficult for debtors to shirk domestic relations responsibilities. Unlike the old law (BRA) which, as amended in 1984, allowed debtors to discharge nonsecured property settlement obligations to former spouses (think payouts for businesses, professional practices, or other assets distributed in a divorce), the new law forbids this. Now, any domestic support obligation “DSO” becomes a “first priority claim,” ineligible for discharge.
Still, scholars see potential areas of abuse. If you have a property agreement or divorce decree wherein your ex assumes existing marital debt (outstanding credit cards run up during your marriage) and agrees to pay the credit card companies directly--“holding you harmless” in the meantime--beware. That obligation might be subject to discharge or reduced payment under the new bankruptcy law. Why? Payments made to a third party, i.e., someone other than, “a spouse, former spouse or child of the debtor” might not receive protection under the new 11 U.S.C. 523(a) (15). (For an excellent article on the details of this danger, log on here.)
On the other hand, any obligation undertaken in a divorce, owed to a third party and in the nature of support (say, an ongoing mortgage or auto loan) is probably safe from discharge under BAPCPA. Best idea: Insist on having your spouse pay old, nonsecured consumer debt, directly, from his--or her--share of money received from the sale of a house or distribution of other assets at the time of the divorce. A promise to pay is nice, but security (or cash) is king.
BAPCPA also provides “domestic support obligations” first priority status over other nonsecured debt. (But, this fact might not be as useful as it sounds as BAPCPA expands the reach and strength of secured creditors. So, it’s possible less will be left for all unsecured creditors, regardless of priority status.) Furthermore, the automatic stay provisions of the code no longer apply to divorce or support actions filed in state courts. Though you won’t be able to divide the debtor’s property, you will be able to address support, domestic violence and custody matters without having to appear in federal bankruptcy court to “lift” the stay.
Also, under BAPCPA, a bankruptcy filing won’t affect your rights to receive support via wage garnishment or other common collection means. Likewise, pre-filing payments of domestic support obligations to a spouse (so-called “pre-petition transfers”) won’t be “voidable” as preferential payments. Plus, per BAPCPA, no payment plan debtor will receive an order of discharge until he or she confirms that all domestic support obligations are current.
What’s more, BAPCPA requires a debtor to reside in a state more than 40 months before he or she files for bankruptcy protection to take advantage of that state’s exemptions; thus eliminating “forum shopping,” where debtors moved to states like Florida or Texas just before filing bankruptcy petitions, in an effort to convert nonexempt property into an exempt homestead, wiping out their nonsecured debt in the process.
So much for the debtor. As a DSO creditor in the age of BAPCPA, you will receive notice from the trustee of your rights to collect support through federal enforcement agencies. You will also receive the most recent address of the debtor, where he works and details about other affirmed creditors remaining after the bankruptcy action.
While BAPCPA can make life more difficult for those who have suffered from sudden unemployment, sickness or other misfortune, it’s probably the best thing to have happened to unsecured divorce creditors since 1898. Still, BAPCPA is recent law and courts have yet to settle all the issues arising from its new provisions. If your ex files for bankruptcy protection, consult with an expert. Ask how to protect your DSO (domestic support obligation) creditor’s rights by filing any necessary adversary complaints or proofs of claims. For instance, under a Chapter 13 plan, a debtor can still escape paying some, or all, accumulated support arrears, so you must be vigilant.
And, don’t forget to obtain copies of all the debtor’s bankruptcy schedules (disclosing his income, real and personal property, and the like). As BAPCPA provides the possibility of using exempt property to collect what you are owed as a nondischarged creditor, these schedules will be a rich source of useful information. Happy hunting.
Written by Marlene M. Browne Esq.
Warren Shiell is a divorce lawyer serving Los Angeles, Beverly Hills, Santa Monica

Transferring IRA's in a Divorce

IRAs and Divorce From Divorce Magazine
If you're transferring your interest in an IRA to your (former) spouse, you could get hit with extra tax and penalties if the transfer is not made correctly. Here's the right way -- and a couple examples of the wrong way -- to transfer these funds.
By Bruce L. Richman, CPA, ABV, CVA
We have all heard about "substance over form", but when it comes to transferring IRAs, it is "form over substance". The IRS is very clear that an early distribution from an IRA is subject to a 10% penalty as provided in Section 72(t) of the Internal Revenue Code ("IRC"). The IRC also provides that any amount distributed from an IRA "...shall be included in gross income by the payee or distributee, as the case may be, in the manner provided under IRC Section 72". However, the IRC does provide for an exception -- which is contained in IRC Section 408(d)(6) -- whereby a transfer of an individual's interest in an IRA to his/her spouse or former spouse under a divorce or separation instrument is not considered a taxable transfer. This exception only applies if the following two requirements are met:
(a) there must be a transfer of the IRA participant's interest in the IRA to his/her spouse or former spouse; and(b) such transfer must have been made under a divorce or separation instrument.
It is important to note that IRC Section 408(d)(6) deals with the "transfer" of an individual's interest in an IRA and does not deal with "distributions" from an IRA.
If, as part of the divorce or legal separation, you are (or your client is) required to transfer some or all of the assets in a traditional IRA to your spouse or former spouse, there are two commonly used methods to effect this transfer. IRS Publication 590 describes the two methods for transferring an interest in an IRA tax-free as follows:
(a) "Change the name on the IRA" -- if you are transferring all of the assets of the IRA, you can simply make the transfer by changing the name on the IRA from your name to the name of your spouse or former spouse.(b) "Direct transfer" -- simply direct the trustee of your traditional IRA to transfer specific assets to the trustee of a new or existing IRA set up in the name of your spouse or former spouse.
This appears to be straightforward, but these simple rules often are not followed, and problems arise. This is illustrated in two recent tax cases, which demonstrate the importance of "form over substance". In Jones v. Commissioner TC Memo 2000-219, the taxpayer had an IRA. In 1992, the taxpayer and his wife filed for divorce. In April of 1994, the husband and wife drafted a marital settlement agreement requiring the husband to transfer his IRA to his wife as part of the property settlement. In May of 1994, the husband cashed out his IRA (he received a check for $68,000) and endorsed the check he received to his wife. The IRS sought to have the $68,000 included in the taxpayer's income for 1994. It was the Court's opinion that the endorsement of the check to the wife was not a "transfer" of the husband's interest in the IRA, because his interest in the IRA was depleted at the time he withdrew the funds. It is important to note that the fact that the check for the IRA balance was endorsed rather than deposited into the husband's account did not affect the outcome of the case. The courts stated that the transfer of IRA assets by a distributee to a non-participant spouse does not constitute the "transfer" of an interest in the IRA under IRC Section 408(d)(6). The purpose of IRC Section 408(d)(6) was to offer a means to avoid having the interest transferred treated as a distribution. It does not permit the IRA participant to allocate to a non-participant spouse the tax burden of an actual distribution.
Following the same logic was the case of Bunney v. Commissioner 114 TC No. 17 (April 2000). The husband and wife, both residents of California, a community property state, were divorced in 1992. Per their divorce settlement, the husband's IRA, which was funded with contributions that were community property, was to be divided equally between the husband and wife. The husband withdrew the $125,000 balance of his IRA and deposited the proceeds into his money-market savings account. During the same year, he transferred $111,600 to his former spouse as part of divorce settlement. Mr. Bunney only reported $13,400 of the IRA distribution on his 1993 federal income tax return.
Just as in the Jones case, the main issue revolved around the question of whether the husband's gross income should include the distributions he received from his IRA. Again, the Court turned to the two requirements that must be fulfilled in order for the exception of IRC Section 408 (d) (6) to apply, and again the husband did not satisfy the first requirement calling for a 'transfer" of the IRA interest to the spouse. Mr. Bunney cashed out his IRA, deposited the funds into his money-market savings account, and then paid his former spouse some of the proceeds.
As demonstrated by these two cases, the simple "form over substance" is important in transferring an IRA tax free pursuant to a divorce or separation agreement. An easy way to avoid any potential problems is to have the actual transfer papers made available and incorporated into the divorce settlement. A mishap with the form of the transaction can have significant tax consequences.
Since 1980, Bruce Richman (CPA/ABV, CVA, CDFA™) has been actively involved in valuations, mergers and acquisitions and other financial and tax consulting matters. He is a Managing Director of Trenwith Valuation, LLC and until June 2004 was Partner in the Business Valuation Consulting Services Group for BDO Seidman, LLP. In his current position, Mr. Richman is responsible for various valuation projects and consulting services in the United States and, for U.S. clients, internationally. You can read about his firm in his Divorce Magazine profile or visit his website at or visit his website at .

Warren Shiell is a Divorce Lawyer in Beverly Hills

CBS Television's Early Show airs series on divorce

CBS News' Early Show is running a series on divorce. Articles and videos available on their website that professors may find useful in their teaching include:
Putting An End To Divorce Wars. Reconcilable Differences: Some Couples Seek Mediation, Not Litigation, To Keep The Peace. article
Divorce Among Senior Couples. Deirdre Bair, author of "Calling It Quits: Late-Life Divorce And Starting Over," speaks with Harry Smith. video
How Divorce Wars Take A Toll On Kids. Children Are Often Caught In The Middle Between Feuding Parents article
Making divorce easier on kids article

Warren Shiell is a Divorce and Family Law Attorney in Los Angeles

California Supreme Court states that family court may not restrict oral testimony

The California Supreme Court has invalidated a county court rule that required divorce trials be submitted on written declarations and prohibited oral testimony except in “unusual
circumstances.” The rule also required parties to establish in their pretrial declarations the admissibility of all exhibits they sought to introduce at trial. A divorce litigant whose evidence was excluded because he had failed to establish its admissibility in the pretrial stage challenged both sets of rules. Download elkinssupreme_court_decision.pdf

Warren Shiell is a Los Angeles Divorce Attorney

Estate planning and community property law

An excellant post from the California Estate Planning Blog about what rights a spouse has to the surviving spouse's community property and separate property upon death. article

Brittney Spears and why she lost vistation

Great article by By JOANNA GROSSMAN , a professor at Hoffstra. Link to article
Britney Spears: Why She Lost Visitation Rights, And What Her Case Teaches Us About Family LawBy JOANNA GROSSMAN ----
Tuesday, Jan. 08, 2008
Is there a celebrity more often called a "train-wreck" these days than Britney Spears? Like a massive pile-up on the highway, Britney's rapid descent from a celebrity mother with two young children, to a divorced mother stripped of visitation completely, has captivated our attention. But the story here is not just about an overwhelmed pop star escalating out of control, but also about the law: What does Britney's case tell us about family law that we (and she) ought to know?
The Facts and Legal Twists and Turns of Britney's Story
I first wrote about Britney Spears in 2004 when she and Kevin Federline married. In a single year, at the ripe old age of 23, Britney had married one man in Las Vegas, annulled her marriage to him 55 hours later, signed an agreement with a second man to have a "fake" wedding ceremony, and then, finally, married him for real. As a law professor, I found that her marriage-hopping was a great tool to teach about the rules governing marriage, annulment, and prenuptial agreements. (I still hand out her petition for annulment in my family law class as an example of how to get out of a "jest" marriage.) Writing about Britney then did not seem terribly voyeuristic; after all, her youthful indiscretions had left few permanent scars on her or anyone else. She and K-Fed were safely married and seemed, at least fleetingly, to be happy.
Since then, however, the story has taken a much darker turn. In just two years, Britney and Kevin became parents to two sons. Two months after giving birth to her second child, Britney filed for divorce in November 2006. In her petition, she alleged "irreconcilable differences" - a no-fault ground for divorce recognized in California. She requested both physical and legal custody of the boys, then ages 13 months and 8 weeks. ("Physical custody" refers to where the child resides; "legal custody" refers to the power to make important decisions regarding a child's health, education and religion. Both forms of custody can be awarded solely to one parent or shared by both.) She asked that each party pay their own legal fees for the divorce, and that no alimony be awarded.
Britney got her divorce - in August 2007 - but ultimately lost on every other issue. The court ordered her to pay Kevin's legal fees (over $100,000), since her earnings dwarf his so substantially, ordered her to pay him alimony, awarded him physical and legal custody of the children, and, very recently, stripped her of all visitation rights.
Through all this legal wrangling, Britney's life again presents a teachable moment - this time about the law of divorce and custody, instead of marriage and prenups - though maybe she is the one who needs the lesson most of all. I'll focus here on the decisions regarding custody and visitation and the legal framework in which those decisions are made.
Lesson #1: Courts, not Divorcing Parents, Ultimately Decide Custody
When Britney first requested sole custody in her divorce petition, she had a very good chance of getting it. Even though it has been held unconstitutional for courts to assume mothers make better parents or automatically award them custody, women still end up with sole or joint custody 90 percent of the time. This is especially true when children are young, even more so for infants. Kevin also seemed a less likely choice at that time since he had two other out-of-wedlock children and a fledgling career as a performer.
But Kevin did not just roll over. In his response to her divorce petition, he also asked for sole custody of the couple's sons. And with that response, a custody battle ensued.
Who normally decides the custody issue? Ultimately, the decision of where a child should live following divorce and whether one or both parents should have decision-making power is a question for the court.
In an intact family, parents are entitled to make these decisions without governmental intrusion. Indeed, there is a long line of U.S. Supreme Court cases holding that parents have a constitutionally-protected right to make decisions about the care and custody of their children without governmental intrusion. It is the rare case in which the government has a sufficiently compelling reason to overturn the decision of a parent about a child's upbringing. But divorce literally changes everything.
In divorce, the state's parens patriae power - the power to be a sort of super-parent - comes to life as it stands over the divorcing parents to look out for the child. By statute, in every state, the court must ensure that custody decisions reflect "the best interests of the child." This does not mean that the parents have no say in the custody decision, however.
A parent who does not want custody will be unlikely to have it forcibly imposed upon him or her, for example, unless there is no other available parent. And if both parents want custody, they are free to try and negotiate the issue themselves. In the vast majority of cases, custody awards reflect an agreement negotiated by the parties. (Most states do not permit couples to resolve custody conflicts too far in advance, such as in a prenuptial agreement; custody agreements must generally be made in anticipation of separation or divorce.) However, courts have the responsibility to review all such arrangements to make sure they meet the best-interests-of-the-child standard - and to give them the imprimatur of law by issuing a custody "order." Still, if the parties reach a reasonable agreement regarding custody and visitation, courts are unlikely to alter their agreed-upon terms.
When the parties do not agree, however, all bets are off. Custody battles can be long, drawn-out, nasty affairs that cost a fortune. But when there is a custody battle, who wins? To receive custody or visitation, a parent must be considered legally "fit." An unfit parent can have parental rights temporarily suspended or permanently terminated. In most custody cases, however, the battle is between two parents who meet this minimum standard of competence. Then, the custody decisions turns on the desires of the parents, their respective abilities and deficiencies, the particular needs of the child, and a long list of other relevant factors. A court has a lot of flexibility to tailor a custody arrangement to a particular situation - it can order joint physical or legal custody, or sole custody to one parent with visitation for the other, and the particular details of any of these arrangements can vary.
In the end, the court decides whether a parent gets custody or visitation and on what terms. Before their divorce became final, Britney and Kevin shared custody of their sons. They privately agreed to this arrangement, and the court gave legal effect to their agreement pending a final ruling. Since then, of course, that arrangement has been greatly altered.
Lesson #2: Parental Behavior Matters in Custody Battles
Among the factors considered in custody cases is parental behavior. It used to be the case that courts would think nothing of stripping a parent of custody or visitation rights simply because they violated a societal norm by, for example living with someone outside of marriage or engaging in same-sex behavior. Courts no longer use custody rulings as an excuse to police parental compliance with such societal norms, but they do - and should - still take into account parental behavior to the extent it bears on the health or well-being of a child. The so-called "nexus" test followed in most states asks whether a particular type of parental conduct has caused, or is likely to cause, physical or emotional harm to a child. If the answer is yes, then the court may set or modify custody arrangements accordingly.
Why is this relevant to Britney's case? Because after Kevin filed his competing request for custody - suggesting that the parties did not agree about the appropriate custody arrangement, and thus that there might be a courtroom battle - Britney seemed to devote herself to conduct that might jeopardize her plea for custody. She was vilified in the tabloids and elsewhere for a whole host of behaviors - everything from appearing in public one too many times without underwear, to shaving her head, to fleeing the scene after hitting someone's car in a drugstore parking lot.
Of the things she has allegedly done, only some are potentially relevant to the custody case. While many of Britney's missteps will probably cause embarrassment to her children someday, when they grow up and discover an archive of US Weekly magazines, that's not the sort of harm courts worry about too seriously. Her hit-and-run accident? Probably also not relevant, because this behavior, while illegal, does not directly jeopardize her children's well-being. Driving without a California driver's license? Definitely not, since being licensed in the wrong state does not affect her ability to drive safely, whether or not it violates the law.
But Britney's behavior did become relevant, for it also involved allegations of alcohol and drug abuse, since children could certainly be endangered by a parent's lack of sobriety, and driving her children around without car seats, as photographs showed. These allegations, if proven, certainly satisfy the nexus test used in custody matters. Indeed, based on the court's recent finding that she is a "habitual, frequent and continuous" user of alcohol and controlled substances, it ordered Britney to submit to random drug and alcohol testing twice weekly, beginning in September 2007. The court also ordered her to meet with a parenting coach, enroll in a "parenting without conflict program," and refrain from using alcohol or drugs when with her children.
Lesson #3: Britney: The Paparazzi Are Not the Only Ones Watching Your Every Move
One last, hard lesson for divorcing parents is this: There is no such thing as a permanent custody order. Until children reach the age of majority, the court has jurisdiction to enforce and modify its orders regarding custody, visitation and child support.
What this means is exactly what we have seen with Britney and Kevin: when new allegations are made about parental fitness, or anything else relevant to custody, the court can revisit its orders and change them as appropriate. Although courts tend to require a "change of circumstances" in order to relitigate the basic question of who gets custody, it has the power to take another look when the need presents itself.
It is this ongoing scrutiny by the court - not just by the paparazzi and the millions of Americans who follow celebrity news - that left Britney vulnerable to her current fate: losing contact with her children altogether. She first lost shared custody last October; shortly thereafter, she also temporarily lost visitation rights for failing to comply with court orders regarding alcohol and drug testing. She regained visitation rights shortly thereafter, but only on the condition that the visitation be "supervised," which means that an approved third party had to be present every minute when she visited her sons.
Britney has now lost visitation rights completely once again. Given courts' strong presumption that children should continue to have meaningful contact with both parents following divorce, the complete denial of visitation is serious business. Britney allegedly refused to turn her children over to Kevin's bodyguard at the end of a visit, became hysterical, and was hospitalized. A court then temporarily suspended her visitation rights with her sons. Britney's custody lawyer has also filed a request to be removed from the case, stating that her inability to communicate with her client was hampering the representation.
Britney's younger sister, pregnant at 16, with a mother who is alleged to have sold that news to a tabloid for a million dollars, may soon give Britney a run for her money in the train-wreck department. But, for now, the title is all Britney's . The good news, in the custody arena, is that a denial of visitation can be reversed just as easily as it is instituted. Courts want fit parents to be involved with their children. So if Britney could just shape up and get her life under control, she should be able to re-establish legal contact with them. The question now is not a legal one, but a factual one: Can she?
Warren Shiell is a Divorce Lawyer in Los Angeles

Impact of credit on divorce

Lessen impact of divorce on credit

If you're planning to file for divorce this year or are already splitting your assets with your soon-to-be ex-spouse, your credit is likely to take a hit.
Many people don't realize that lenders do not honor court decrees that assign payment responsibilities for joint loans. The mistaken assumption that you're off the hook for financial obligations can result in a series of missed payments that may trash your credit score for years.
This needn't happen if you safeguard your credit before you file for divorce. Consider these tips from John Ulzheimer, author of "You're Nothing but a Number" and an expert at, a consumer personal finance site.
If you have joint accounts with your spouse, do your best to turn them into individual accounts so that it will be easier for the divorce court to split up your financial responsibilities. To do that you will need your spouse's permission, which means you're going to have to let the cat out of the bag. But taking these steps now can save you years of credit woes later.
Begin by converting your credit card accounts. People most often miss payments on this type of debt, rather than the loans that keep a roof over their head and wheels under their feet.
Next, work on refinancing your mortgage and your car loan. Granted, this is going to be more difficult, because the bank will want just one person to accept the loan in his or her name -- which may not be possible if that person's salary isn't enough to qualify for the loan. In cases like these, it might be easier to sell the car or the house, split the money and move on. That way, you're guaranteed not to have credit damages caused by a vengeful ex-spouse.
"Remember that when you're getting divorced from your spouse, you're also divorcing yourself from emotional attachment to assets," Ulzheimer said.
You would also be wise to opt out of receiving pre-screened offers for credit or insurance. A spiteful ex-wife or ex-husband may be tempted to apply for a loan in your name just to ruin your credit. Go to the consumer credit reporting industry's official Web site for details:
Finally, start planning for all this at least six months to a year before you file, or as early as possible before the divorce gets ugly. Once any problems begin, you and your embittered other half will have a hard time thinking logically. If this seems like a lot of work at the front end of your separation, remember that it will save you up to 10 years of credit-related headaches in the aftermath.

Warren Shiell is a Los Angeles Divorce Lawyer